So this post is written by me but coming to you from Alfonso Jr
Here are the 4 top lessons I learned from becoming a Mother.
1. You are the "expert" you are seeking
No one can tell you what to do when it comes to your health and body. No one knows exactly how you feel, what your beliefs are, or the outcome you want. If you listen to your gut feelings and what your body is telling you, you'll find the answer. Coaches can make suggestions, help you work through rough patches and provide information, but ultimately the decision is yours.
This happened to me when I was pregnant. I was told that as soon as he was born, my son would need a vitamin K injection in his foot. I thought that was a pretty traumatic way start your life, so I asked if there were any alternatives. The doctor said "oh yes you could eat leafy green vegetables during the pregnancy". Whaaaaaat? I was astounded that this wasn't the first recommended course of action. I realised that I needed to inform myself so I knew when I needed to question the traditional system. I ended up having a medication-free birth, but only because I tuned into my body and didn't allow an expert to make my decisions for me.
2. You have everything you need right now
You're never ready to be a Mum. There are so many challenges along the way and some days it's more than a little overwhelming. But, you do have all the necessary tools in your toolkit to handle these challenges. And the same goes for life. You have all the patience, love, wisdom and whatever else you need, to get through the road block you're facing. No one outside of you can give you patience or perseverance. You create it inside yourself. You have everything you need right now to get through it.
3. Mistakes are a natural way of learning, not something to be ashamed of
I often felt like a failure before I had my son. I still do occasionally, but he is a constant reminder that mistakes make you a pro. No baby has ever just stood up and walked on their first try. They fall down, stumble, and get right back up again. Imagine if after one try they gave up and cried, "I'm never going to walk!"
Equally, when other people watch a baby learning to walk, they're full of encouragement. Even when the baby falls down, they cheer and clap, and the baby knows to keep trying. Somehow we lose that as we grow older, and we feel ashamed or berate ourselves when we fall down. We'll get there, but usually it doesn't happen on the first try. Mistakes are inevitable, not signs of failure. When I make a mistake I take a big breath and tell myself that now I know one way not to do it.
4. Your feelings are valuable
Whatever a baby is feeling, you know about it. If they're happy, they're laughing and grinning and clapping. If they're sad or uncomfortable, you'll probably hear it 1/2 a kilometre away. We all seem to grow up and block out our feelings, or think that we "shouldn't" feel a certain way.
Feelings are usually signs that something is out of balance. If we behave "like a baby" and communicate our feelings, they usually diminish a lot. I know that every time I'm brave enough to tell someone when I'm not having a good day, I end up feeling much better after the conversation is over - that's the power of human interaction. We all need to feel heard, understood and supported - just as we did when we were babies. We simply understood how to communicate a little better back then.
What life lessons have small humans taught you? I'd love to hear about them below!